_____________Silence_____________

Silence never betrays you.”

JOHN BOYLE O'REILLY, "Rules of the Road"

There are times when silence becomes a persons’ best friend.  When you’re feeling lonely, a little scared of the world and maybe betrayed by some one…. That’s when Silence becomes your best friend.

Over the years, I learnt that Silence never harms, rather it protects a person from a lot of harm that words might do.  The transition from an Extrovert to an Introvert who keeps things all bottled up for me was good and a time when I really needed that quietness around me, in my own soul to think about certain things.

As time passed, I developed the sense of really pondering over thoughts and things about which I had to make decisions, I turn them twist them in my mind, the only thing that helps me really evaluate is the answer that comes from deep within…….. From the silent depth.

My love for people, my understanding of them also comes from the time I started keeping silent and just simply observing them. At times it gets a little too hurtful not being able to talk but then it is also healed by the understanding a person reaches to about themselves in a silent mode of life.

“In silence man can most readily preserve his integrity.”

Meister Eckhart

In the middle of a fight, the winner is the one who remains silent, to some they may seem like a loser but to their own self; they have preserved their integrity. Their sense of self worth stops them from stooping so low as to bicker about what they consider common things.

I can relate a million things from my life, both personal and professional, where I hear something about myself which can be quite hurtful but I just smile and think…. “Oh Thank you who ever is saying such things about me…….. It just shows how important I am for you to spend so much time thinking about me.”

I never go and confront that person as in my opinion; it is like stoking a fire. My silence does speaker louder than words, it conveys my self discipline, integrity and it irritates people to such an extent that they show their true colors J .

A Thank You to Someone Special

And each of us can practice rights ourselves, treating each other without discrimination, respecting each other's dignity and rights.
Carol Bellamy

As a young girl in school after the home bell would ring and we would disperse for home, I remember seeing a sari clad lady with a scarf over her head watching over the prayers of the afternoon shift… As a child, I was a little scared of her and a little in awe. What I was not to know that she would in the future become one of the most inspirational figures of my life.

Now, as I see her I realize she has immense inner strength. I can understand the pain and loss she has gone through in her life but it has just made her more beautiful as a human being. I see her dedication to her family and from where I am standing to me, it seems like she is the pillar on which her dear ones are standing tall and proud….. Any one would stand tall if they were associated to her. At work, she tries her best to draw the best out of all those who work under her.  

What I learnt from her will stay with me forever. She is always telling me “Basic Honesty is what makes a relationship work”; this lesson has proved to be the truest I could have ever learnt from anyone. I have a lot to say but words seem insignificant for the dignity, poise and strength that she has…… The world would be a better place if we have just a few more people like her. I think all I can say is “Thank you Parveen Aunty, for being there, for being a mother, an aunt I did not have and for being a mentor.” I hope as time passes by I grower closer to you.

As Pauline Reage stated “Woman ... is the divine object, violated, endlessly sacrificed yet always reborn, whose only joy, achieved through a subtle interplay of images, lies in contemplation of herself.”

 The things that I have learnt from my mum and you are love, sacrifice, sincerity and honesty. The two of you are epitomes of womanhood and personification of the female which God had initially thought up of, a nurturer of humanity devoid of any spite.